Tough situation… Is there any way you can move out for a while to get some real space from the situation? I’m not sure if you’re married or not, but it sounds to me like a Groundhog Day episode where the same things keep replaying. And there’s no way to get a different outcome without blowing it up. BUT something like moving out without breaking up could give you both the space to decide how to move forward. And if it’s not together then you’ll already have made the step.

Also, have you considered an IUD? I’m on the copper one (no hormones, 10-year plan) and absolutely love it.

There ARE solutions but not if you keep walking the same road.

Regardless, my heart goes out to you. There’s nothing worse than being in a relationship and feeling lonely.