To me, the first few sentences about his annoyance encapsulate everything that is wrong with the relationship.

If a partner gets annoyed because we can’t do what they want, when they want, then that’s a serious problem.

I’m not married and don’t have kids, but after surgery on my cervix two years ago, my sex drive took a serious plummet. As someone who’s always enjoyed sex and looked forward to it, I was in totally new water and felt like I had lost my life force. It’s taken a lot of healing but thankfully I have a partner who’s been kind and understanding along the way.

Women need to be able to trust her partner, feel safe, accepted, supported (specifically in a marriage), and respected to open up. And if any one of those pieces are missing, her body isn’t going to respond “the way it should.”

But why should it?

A partner who truly cares will understand or seek to understand instead of getting annoyed.

Annoyance (especially in the bedroom) breeds resentment and dangerous feelings that can ultimately destroy a relationship.

And quite frankly, if a man got annoyed because I couldn’t get my body to wake up, that would be the beginning of the end for me.

Sending love to you and all the superwomen (aka mamas!) out there trying to do it all AND be vixens in the bedroom. Can’t even imagine how difficult it can be 🙌🏽