Like you—I’ve never been attracted to the pretty boy. I joke that attractive men fit into two categories 1) beautiful or 2) sexy, and I’m alwaysssss for the sexy. It’s an essence. It’s forever. And it usually has little to do with a physical appearance (and always to do with a depth of character).

God forbid the two are combined, then I’m in BIG trouble… But specimens like this rarely exist, with few exceptions like Chris Hemsworth. I know, I know. But it’s not his god-like, Grecian physique that rolls me over—it’s the twinkle in his eye and his sense of humor. I’d seriously just giggle in a corner if we ever met—wouldn’t be able to speak if he smiled at me and I saw that twinkle. Gah.

But I think the idea that we instantly know whether or not someone is attractive or worth sticking around for is total rubbish!

How many amazing marriages began with friends who weren’t into each other? Or were even enemies? And idk about you, but I’ve fallen in love with more than one man I didn’t initially find attractive.

It’s not rocket science - immediate attraction doesn’t last! Unless it’s just about the hookup or ego-build, we need SO much more to genuinely like the person.

I think the bigger question is—when will we stop being so vapid? When will we realize that physical beauty (while amazing at times) is fleeting? Or that the hottest person in the room is the one who makes you laugh/think/feel safe/fall in love with ourselves?

I’m so sorry he bounced on you, but I bet your night would’ve been total sh$t if he had stayed because beauty has robbed him of a heart. Everything works out in our favor in the end.